So I’ve been reading a lot of Duncan hate recently and I thought I’d throw my two cents in.
I hated Veronica/Duncan in season 2. Who didn’t? I understood Veronica’s desire for an easy/”normal” relationship, especially following the “conclusion” of the darkest period of her life (like maybe by solving lily’s case everything would go back to the way it was before she died) but I never fully bought that she’d get back with him.
As someone who’s had a tangentially similar experience, the only way I’ve been able to think about it without getting irrationally angry is by trying to think of her decision through the eyes of a rape victim. Because to me, and to many other fans I’ve heard from, it was definitely rape. And though Veronica SAID it wasn’t rape after talking to Duncan, I can’t imagine she ever fully bought that. I think she WANTED it not to be rape and tried really, really hard to convince herself it wasn’t.
I think that’s part of the reason she got back together with Duncan and why she chose to lose her virginity to him (which is how I saw it, even if it’s technically inaccurate. It was the first time she CHOSE to have sex) instead of Logan. I think that before she could have a healthy relationship with anyone else (*cough* Logan *cough*) she needed/desperately wanted to convince herself that it really wasn’t rape. Especially given her view of herself as strong, independent, and anything but a victim.
I think she needed to go trough the process of CHOOSING to have sex with Duncan in order to convince herself that she WOULD’VE said yes that night at Shelly’s. Because prior to that all she had was his word that she’d wanted it.
I’m not saying it’s healthy or that it’s even what Rob Thomas had in mind, but it’s the only way that I can assimilate that entire season 2 relationship with my head canon and protect my little LoVe shipper heart.
Anyway, feel free to discuss
This makes a lot of sense to me and helps me reframe that part of the series a bit too. Thank you.
Random people running for office in my state have started following me on twitter. What did I do?? I mostly use my twitter to vote for shit for TV shows!
i will literally reblog this every time i see it
For everyone who, like me, kept seeing this and didn’t know what it was from but desperately wanted to: the gender box - a youtube video.
I love Peter way more than I anticipated when I learned Adam Pally was joining the show. Peter & Mindy make great BFFs. They crack my shit up.
I love that she has him to turn to now that she’s not comfortable being besties with Danny anymore. Which is ~killing~ me, btw, but yea. I’m glad she has Peter and that he’s having fun being her friend too.
More than five? Can we have a post to reblog for more than fifty?
Do you ever see something someone posted, and you’re just like NO YOU ARE WRONG but you think to yourself, “This isn’t the hill I want to die on” so you have to let it go?
love stories about monsters are THE BEST because the idea of conceptualizing love in a way that is not human and fundamentally cannot be human and is AN ENTIRELY SEPARATE LEVEL FROM THE HUMAN is so great.
made better when one half of the relationship is human and suddenly we’re dealing with a) a human learning to love like a monster or b) a monster learning to translate their love into human terms and that’s
the best thing
which often goes hand in hand with MONSTER TRYING TO HUMANIZE THEMSELVES but that’s.. not necessary, don’t worry monster, you don’t need to do that. your capacity for love does not need to be whittled and softened into a human shape. it’s okay. your heart can be brutal and all consuming. you will learn to cope and you will learn to funnel it, pieces at a time, into something conceivable and measurable to the human mind.
and i don’t strictly mean monster monsters because there’s room here for divinity (alpha and omega, first and last, holy terror OF THE HEART. apocalypses OF FEELING.) or ghosts, or non-human, non-monster outliers (superheroes, androids, idek), or even human beings who are self-made monsters and whose expression and understanding of love is two steps removed and two shades off.
but, you know what i mean.
love stories about monsters.
I’m rereading N. K. Jeminin’s Inheritance Trilogy rn and YES to all of this.
It’s 1am so I’m sorry for the people who won’t see this. But if you want confidence and don’t know how to get it, a really good way is to be confident in other people. When you walk into Starbucks, think, “damn, that barista’s hair is da bomb!” Or when you go to school, think, “my teacher is rocking that skirt!” When you start seeing everyone as being beautiful, at some point you realize that you’re everyone too.
“I get how people are always more worried about ‘the victim’ in situations, so I’m not shocked about this at all. But did anyone else realize that both Hook and Belle were uncomfortable when Emma had him announce that he’d stay behind? I think that’s why he said ‘sorry’ the way he did- he uses sarcasm in situations like that. That doesn’t make the way he said it okay, but I can see why he’d act/react that way.”
did you just put victim in quotes?
… the fuck?
I haven’t been myself since we’ve returned. I should have realized the reason why. It’s because I don’t have…her